Posted in Perspectives

Family Time..Season

This post is for all of my Beautiful Sisters and Brothers who may feel alone during the “Holiday Season” what call Family Time Season :-).

Please know you are NEVER alone!

I am a Lone Wolf by nature but sometimes even I feel alone. I am here to tell you to honor yourself, first , second, third and always…

If you feel like being around people, then go ahead and find some folks to have good time with and when you have had enough, remove yourself. You are not obligated to stay longer than you want to. If you decide you want to spend time with just yourself, do it! Enjoy your company, laugh, cry, rest…do whatever you feel like doing in the moment. Perhaps you are like me and want to do both; be with others for a while and spend time with just yourself for a while…do it!

Loneliness is a feeling occurring when we hold on to something  or someone that was but will never be again.

I’ve taught myself to look forward to new experiences, new idea, new people…it helps me relieve the feeling of loneliness I used to carry with me way too often. Try it; teach yourself to look forward to what each New Day has to offer.

So during this time when it seems as though everyone has someone, remember you are YOUR most important someone; act accordingly!

Side Bar: Family is not about who you are linked to by blood; Family is a person or people who love, support, encourage and protect you no matter what circumstances may arise. Be with the person or people who make you feel loved BUT, only if you want to. 😉

To Beautiful Spirits reading this with an abundance of loved ones, please remember to reach out to those you know may not have the same.

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To you all I wish many great blessings and peace during this Family Time Season.


Sending you my Love,

SereneNSassy Soul

Posted in Love Flow, Spilled Thoughts

The One…

Loves all of me, leaves his love with me when his physical presence is not possible

Inspires me, encourages me always…

He is loyal and honest

Protective yet freeing

Supportive in every way

Wants me as much as I want him

I am safe with him, always…


Listens, I mean really listens to what I say as well as my silence

Shares with me, never holding back

Steps in embers of passion with me creating a fire that no one else can withstand

He loves to listen to my love song; his description for breaths I take when we’re entwined

He helps me understand and make peace with pain proceeding his presence in my world

He adds purpose and fulfillment to each New Day

He is kind, he is compassionate

He is the very essence of love…


I love the powerful strength I feel when he touches me ever so gently

His scent lingers, long after he’s gone, keeps me company until he returns

The depth and softness of his voice, flows through my ears like a melodic tune

When he stares from across the room, he turns the flame inside of me into a roaring fire

When he smiles at me, the angriest feelings no longer haunt me

For he is The One whose heart rhythm was created to sync with mine

He is whole without me, I am whole without him; together we are perfect balance.

©2017 SereneNSassy Soul

Posted in Spilled Thoughts

Save Your Loved Ones…OPTIONS

This weekend, someone I care about became so overwhelmed dealing with her pain on her own that she decided her only OPTION was to leave this world. She was a Beautiful Spirit; her energy comforting and inspiring. She apparently was an expert hiding her pain because everyone that knew her said she was “happy” and “full of life”. According to everyone there was no indication that she was experiencing internal chaos to the point of no return.

I had not seen her in a few weeks and the last time I saw her she did seem content. At the time of our last connection, I was experiencing my own internal chaos so perhaps I was not as tuned in as I normally am. My grief now with her passing is that I wish someone, if not me could have shown her another OPTION to managing her pain.

I’m always asking everyone to pay attention to loved ones; listen to them and never dismiss their feelings. How you may deal with an issue is not how someone else may be able to; respect their feelings even if you don’t understand them and NEVER, I mean NEVER tell someone to “just get over it and move on”.

In light of this situation, I am wondering how in-tuned with someone you can be if you are experiencing your own issues at the same time. I can remember thinking of this young women and feeling her internal conflict between the choices she had made; some she was not proud of but doing everything she could to make better choices and move forward. She worried constantly (mostly because of religious teachings) that she may never “be right” with God because of past indiscretions. It was difficult because of the people around her and their teachings, to believe God loved her no matter what, God knew her heart was kind and God understood she was trying to make a better life for herself.

options1I think now of the person who told me that contrary to what I believe, everyone does not need support and encouragement to thrive in this world. I respect her perspective but I firmly believe that everyone thrives with support and encouragement; now even more now than ever. I believe we all need someone to listen, I mean really listen; sometimes advise or offer counsel. We were not created to navigate this world alone. We need to know that we are not the only ones experiencing what conflict there may be. While no one else can validate our feelings, it helps to know that you are not alone and it helps to know there are OPTIONS…even when you feel hopeless, there are OPTIONS. Having support, being encouraged helps you access a place within you to create the OPTIONS that will help you get through any internal chaos you may experience.

Again, I wish someone including myself could have helped my young friend access her OPTIONS to escape the pain she was feeling. The feeling in my heart center is not just about her leaving this world, it’s also about the way she decided to leave…the cold and lonely journey she took to leave. I wish she wasn’t alone, I wish she wasn’t dragged down by darkness, I wish she knew how loved she was…is. Perhaps I should have told her how inspiring she was; how her smile and infectious laugh made the dimmest of days bright. Perhaps I should have reminded her of how encouraging her counsel was because you could always feel it coming from her heart; no judgement present.

helping-hand-emotionalNow more than ever I just feel that even when someone pushes us away, we can’t just let them be! I remember being so depressed years ago and not speaking to anyone except during work hours, my Mom would just keep leaving me messages, “I love you and I am here whenever you are ready to let me be.” At the time my internal chaos was so strong there was nothing anyone could say or do to help me, but those messages gave me an OPTION…to keep waking up each day until I could figure how to help myself. You never know how listening or perhaps lending words of kindness can truly be enough to help give someone light through their darkness.

Let’s make a pact to not be consumed by the fear, tragedy and sadness surrounding us in the world today. Let’s work together to create OPTIONS! Lend someone your words of kindness; inspire someone with your actions. Help someone find the strength they need to keep moving forward even when they feel hopeless. No act of kindness is too small.

A couple years ago, a woman in front of me at the Dunkin Donuts drive thru paid for my order without requiring recognition or thank you from me… During that time, I was struggling financially and I knew it was a blessing; it was my light during the darkness I was experiencing. So without much consideration, I used the money I set aside for my breakfast for the person behind me as a way to pay forward the kindness shown to me.

Do what you can and KNOW that it’s enough. Don’t let someone suffer alone; put your hand out and give them a boost up…help them access their OPTIONS. OPTIONS apply to Men and Women. Do NOT assume because physically Men are stronger (in most cases) that they don’t need someone to help them access their OPTIONS!

I’m sending you all the Love and Light I can without depleting my own at this time.

May your outlook be bright and may you always remember you have OPTIONS.

Love, Peace & Blessings…

Posted in Perspectives

Energy of the Ocean

I was blessed to connect with the Ocean on Friday and my spirit has been in mourning since walking away. I felt so peaceful and the energy shared with me by the Ocean was intoxicating…literally intoxicating. I felt woozy but in a good way; indescribable really but it was a powerful feeling.

At the beach (a place I don’t frequent) you have access to all four elements, Water, Earth, Fire (Sun) Air (breeze from the Ocean). My Spirit Brother has directed me to the beach several times this year but I put it off because… (insert excuse here LoL) During my visit I understood why he directed me to the beach; he knows me better than most (not easy to accomplish). It was a beautiful, desperately needed energetic experience.

But now… I feel empty or as if something is missing…I hate whining and complaining about how I feel but this time I feel clueless about how I can make things right.

Seems as if nothing feels all the way right as far as making a decision about what to do with myself, my life but it’s extremely important for me to make a decision NOW.

I miss home…I really miss home and the peace it affords me…the connections…it’s beautiful and comforting; faith whispers, “You will be home again very soon” and for this I am grateful.

Realize knowing and KNOWING are not exactly the same. I think sometimes knowing is painful or frustrating when you seem to have difficulty taking action using what you know; you know?

Love, Peace & Blessings,



Posted in Inspirational Flow

Always on time…

Good Morning Beautiful Spirits!

During a New Day filled with many beautiful moments entwined with moments of pure frustration, I was blessed to “stumble upon” an article to help bring things into perspective. I’ve felt somewhat “stuck” past few weeks, unsure of my next steps; being passionate about so many things feels like a gift and a curse…

The author spoke directly to me; her examples were akin to my present thoughts, ideas, concerns, passions etc. The most pertinent tip: make a list of your values to distinguish your passions from things you enjoy. Make a list? I despise lists or anything that requires me to follow it; innate rebel with no change ahead (chucklessss). Restriction of any kind nearly extinguishes my fire, however, I’m at a great turning point, change is happening and I ‘m open so here’s my top five…

  1. Freedom; all encompassing freedom
  2. Fulfilling my purpose
  3. Sharing my gifts
  4. Creative flow
  5. Traveling

Reviewing the list has made me realize I do not wish to be sedentary nor do I wish to be locked in to a particular location, time or thing-to-do. I want to awaken each New Day able to explore and go with the flow…. Not in an irresponsible/not doing my part in this world way; I simply do not wish to be confined to anything or anyone…FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Now comes the not-so-easy part…

I’m diligent and committed to flowing naturally; it feels great to be in this space at this time presented with infinite possibilities.

Do you awaken each New Day excited about what awaits you? Do you feel “stuck” at times? Are you fulfilled? Do you want more? Are you honoring your authentic self? If you’ve answered no to any of these questions,  I hope you will begin YOUR list of values to gain the clarity you need to continue moving forward.

As always I’d love for you to share your thoughts so we can create an open dialogue.

Sending you all wishes of great Love, Peace & many Blessings…





Posted in Inspirational Flow

Back to Me

Recently someone asked, “What will make you happy?” When I didn’t respond immediately she advised me to remember things I did as a child to make myself happy; things that felt so good to me, I did them without thinking. It’s difficult to remember so far back; especially when you’ve closed the door to that part of yourself due to life experiences, familial and societal conditioning. It’s easy to forget yourself as a carefree child beginning each New Day with wonder and excitement; void of expectations, simply going with the flow of the Universe.

During this lifetime’s journey I became less carefree, still somewhat of a rebel but I learned to suppress my authentic self mostly because it made others uncomfortable. At some point I gave up craving freedom; replaced by a need for security and foundation. At some point I began following rules (albeit silently protesting) simply because it was expected of me. I became a pleaser instead of doing what pleased me so I would be afforded some peace…or so I thought. My authentic self was pushed further and further into the deepest part of me; safe and sound so that I could “survive” in the “real world”.

Fast forward…I’ve spent the past few years “getting to know myself”; initially extremely disappointed by the impostor in the mirror. What the hell? Germ phobic; when I was a child you couldn’t get me to come inside even to wash my hands and one of my favorite things to do was take care animals, especially horses. Disallowing intimate love in my life because relationships did not work out and I just didn’t feel like trying again. Since I can remember, I’ve always been in love with love so removing love from my life made no sense. I was a dare-devil as a child and fearless; as an adult always worrying and filled with anxiety.

The great news is once you understand who you are versus who you’ve become, possibilities of becoming who you were created to be are infinite. Today I’m free once again; free of anxiety, fearless, determined, powerfully in-tune with my authentic self and my purpose for being. I love and support the uninhibited child within unconditionally; the peace it’s brought me is more than I ever imagined possible. I am healthy; I am whole; I am me…

I’m sharing this to inspire you to remember who you truly are (if you haven’t already done so). A Beautiful Spirit said to me yesterday, “I want to do whatever you are doing because you are always smiling and pleasant.” My simple response, “I was sick and tired of being sick and tired so I decided to heal myself inside out and you can do the same. I must tell you that facing yourself is the most difficult thing you will ever do but it’s so worth blessings and clarity it will bring.”

We don’t have to accept the unhappiness we see in the world today. We can make changes one Beautiful Spirit at a time; change begins within. We are only responsible for who we are but we inspire others to be the best they can be leading by example.

As always, I wish you all great Love, Peace & Blessings…

© SerenenSassySoul 2015